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Emotions of a Stressed-out Housewife

This season has been stressful. I aint gonna lie.

As I previously posted, we started a HUGE addition on our home this summer. To say that it has been challenging would be an understatement. We have gone through so many emotions. Excited. Overwhelmed. Hopeful. Exhausted. Contemplative. Excited. And everything in between.

I think most seasons of life have these vast array of emotions. Not to say that these are necessarily a bad thing, but they can be daunting, nonetheless. However, I have learned as of late that these emotions can be good for you. Stretching. If you learn to “ARREST” them.

You see, I have often prided myself on not letting emotions dictate my reality. I have thought of this as a sort of strength. A “super-power”. But, When I sit back and look at all of the situations where I have allowed myself to push my emotions down, or disregard how I feel about something, inevitably, anger follows. At least eventually.

Perhaps it is all in how you look at it. I recently had a nice conversation with someone I love about the mind. How the mind has such a power over your heart. How when you focus on any one thing for too long, you become that thought. Although I fought that thought-process for a little while, I ultimately understood it. It’s true. What you think about, makes you who you are. How you feel. How you act.

I began to analyze where I was in my mind. I began to look at the thought processes that took hold of my thoughts and emotions. How I was letting my emotions (however pushed down I may place them in my heart), were actually dictating how I acted to everyone around me. How the lack of control on my mind was actually destroying my joy. Annihilating my ability to see the beauty in this season of my life. the beauty that God was TRYING to show me. I realized that I was too distracted with myself. That I had begun looking at all of MY “woes” and troubles, and it made me negative, frustrated and…stressed out. In the end, it brought me to a place of prayer, repentance, and ultimately…peace.

Peace. In the midst of chaos.

“For though we live in the world, we do not wage war as in the world does. The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ” 2 Corinthians 10:3-6

The Word of God is so powerful. It so often hits home for me, and usually gets me out of the “rut” of self-doubt and personal struggles.

I believe when we “take every thought captive”, we can be liberated from our negative thinking and stress. We can take those thoughts of, “Everything is stressing me out”, or ” my kids are driving me nuts”, or “I can’t do one more day of dishes, laundry or cleaning”, and arrest it. We can literally say in our minds, “I can do all things through Christ, who strengthens me,” and therefore…ARREST it.

You see, we can CHANGE our thinking. We can “arrest” those thoughts and send them packing!

Please don’t get me wrong…I struggle with this. I really do. I struggle every day to be obedient to Christ. My selfish side is strong, and I have to literally be constantly giving my mind over to God. My thoughts of frustration, anger, pride.

Being a housewife is no joke. Believe me, I could do anything I want with my life, but God has called me to be a stay-at-home mom. It is by far the hardest job I have had, or ever will have. But I tell you what…it requires a daily “pick up your cross” mentality. It requires constant service. Although I feel it is almost “un-natural” for me…I have decided in my mind (where it all starts), to do it to the best of my ability. To serve my husband and my kids with my best.

Do I fail often? Yes. Do I want to give up sometimes? Yes. Do I feel inadequate most of the time? Heck yes. But, with God on my side, and the ability to “cast my burdens on Christ”…I can, and I will do it!

So, with all that said, I pray that even one person can be encouraged to keep going. To continue to take every “stressed-out” thought or emotion and ARREST it. Send it packing through God’s strength. Because, it starts in our minds.

God Bless!

-Z

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Life Update

Posts have been few and far between lately! Sorry to all of my followers, but hopefully this post will explain why…

Life here in the Francis household has been insane, to say the least. We recently undertook an over 900 square feet addition to our home and it has been insanely busy and taxing. My husband used to be in construction, so thankfully, he knows how to build anything! He is doing most of the work himself, so it has been work all day-everyday! 7 am to dark.

Despite the daily rigor of construction (which encompasses dust, dirt and debris on EVERYTHING…everywhere), homeschooling, worship ministry, cooking, cleaning and raising 4 kids…you can say that I am trying to stay sane!

I am officially the “grunt worker” between the two of us. Because I don’t have the skills or knowledge that my husband does, I opt to paint, pick up construction trash and debris, run lumber orders, do whatever miscellaneous projects needed to support the real stuff…and I am the official Francis “gopher”.

Needless to say, I have truly become a hands-on housewife.

Our Insanely HUGE project-In pictures…

Here are some pictures of before and afters of the projects that we have started this summer…

We started with painting the front of the house while we waited for finally plan approval by the county.

It all started with painting the front of our house (while we were waiting for permits to finalize). Modern Farmhouse baby!

Modern farmhouse for the win!!!

Yours truly is the “professional painter” around here!

Once we received approval of plans, we started with the foundation.

Then we began breaking ground on the area that would be the new addition.
We got the foundation finished right in time for the monsoon weather to hit hard!

It was quite disconcerting when the rains hit, but God allowed it to clear on the days we needed it to be clear for building!

We started by putting in the mud seal (the bottom layer of wood that everything sits on-on top of the foundation).
Lets just say that every single day…the kids need baths!
Then there was the floor joists and rough plumbing.
Just in time for more monsoon weather!
We began framing in August 2018.
Right before we started tearing off the roof on that side of the house.
before, middle and after pics of the old den.
Hands on housewife!
Got the Sub floor on! We had so much help from people who love us and wanted to help.
Lots and lots of work!
Then we went to work tearing off the main half of the roof for the new GIANT beam that had to go in.
Our first official wall! The main wall that would hold up the HUMONGOUS trusses.
Putting in the giant ridge beam with the crane .
Frist official truss!!
With the trusses on, it started looking like a house!
Lots of quality time with cousins!

Next was facia and sheathing.
Next was roofing. I swear! Our friends and family have been such a blessing to us! We had the entire roof done in one day!
A bonifide constriction girl! lol! (not really…I’m actually more of a gopher and trash picker upper :/)
We’ve come a long way in a month! I have hundreds of pictures of our progress, but these will suffice for now.

Needless to say…We have had a LOT on our plates. We continue to advance every spare moment we have, and are hoping to be all boxed in and framed by the end of October!

I will especially love picking out the colors, flooring and accessories! P.s. Joanna Gaines is my “spirit animal” ;).

Seasons

My previous post was about the seasons of life. There are many different seasons in life, and I just happen to be in the busy-dirty-construction chaos season. And that’s alright! I believe that there is a lesson to be learned in every season. God has been showing us so much in this season.

The love that has been poured out on us by family and friends has been humbling, to say the least! We have had so many people coming to help us out of the love of their hearts. Just to serve and show that they care! We literally could not have made it this far without all of their help and support!

Because of the love and support poured out on us, we have discussed the humbling realization that we NEED help. That it’s OK to ask and accept the help given. We are humbled and extremely blessed.

So this season of our life is crazy. It really is. But, I have learned so much and wouldn’t trade the hardships and trails for anything! I will keep y’all updated with our progress!

God Bless!

-Z